It’s a balance, isn’t it? We want people to feel free to share, but we also want the conversation to stay meaningful and focused. Here are a few things that can help:

Affirm and redirect. A simple phrase like, “Great point—thanks for sharing. Let’s hear what others think about [topic],” both honors the person and gently guides things back.

Set expectations early. Let the group know it’s everyone’s job to help stay on topic. That way, if you need to redirect, it feels like part of the group’s rhythm rather than just you cutting someone off.

Use signals with humor. Some leaders even create lighthearted cues (like tugging on an ear) to show it’s time to wrap up. When it’s playful, people don’t take offense.

Keep the bigger goal in mind. It’s not about policing conversation but about creating space where everyone can participate and grow together.

Every group is different, so experiment and see what feels natural for your personality and your people.

What strategies have worked for you when a discussion starts to wander?